[{"bf_titre":"Date #88: \u0022Adam Sandler\u0022","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3EfYV4e The Three Points To a Successful Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4loJpUk 3 Things to Look for in a Family Man]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jp9ZuS Marriage IS Hard Work...So What!]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lvuNTt Why We Decided We Don\u0027t Want a Normal Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Ra5GHJ Being \u0022Hangry\u0022 Can Lead to Relationship Problems]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3G4pqu7 Why Reminiscing on Your Dating Days Is Important]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RLcv2A How Procrastination Can Kill Your Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lioXVb Are You Acting or Taking Action in Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4loE4MW Their Love Had Gone Cold]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42Epyco They Had to Confront Her Affair]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i7KYTO They Had to Give Back Their Baby Boy]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3E9AqG3 They Regretted Their Divorce]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lszk9e When Home Becomes the Office: A Marriage on the Brink]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3G0c6a9 Fighting for Our Marriage After the War]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ibLf8t We Almost Lost Our Daughter \u2014 Then Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RLcvzC Marriage on the Move: Loving Through Loss and Relocation]]\r\n\r\n\u201cAdam\u201d \u2013 what a weird, quirky dude. We met at a local wine bar, and shortly after I met him, a new guy sat next to us. Adam seemed more into talking to this new guy than to me -- his date \u2013 the person upon whom he should have been trying his best to make a good first impression. (if this is improper English, so be it \u2013 several glasses of wine were drunk tonight for the sake of sanity)\r\n\r\nThe whole night, \u201cAdam\u201d was just too strange. He eventually got worse, making inappropriate comments (\u201cLiv Tyler is a nice piece of ass\u201d and \u201cI\u2019ve got to pee\u201d). When he chatted up the 40-something blond to his right with the deep cleavage, I was happy to let him go.\r\n\r\nThe highlight of the night? The new guy next to us, and his girlfriend, who joined him a little while later \u2013 what a lovely couple! I invited them to an upcoming happy hour I\u2019m hosting.\r\n\r\nAnother highlight of the evening: discovering this lovely new wine bar. This region was previously verboten for dates because it was around the corner from This Guy\u2026 but since This Guy has been abducted by aliens, I\u2019ve reclaimed this mini foodie Mecca.\r\n\r\nMore tomorrow, when sober.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2024-04-09","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2024-04-09","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"Date88AdamSandler","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-09 16:50:45","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-09 16:50:45","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222024-04-09\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222024-04-09\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022Date88AdamSandler\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-09 16:50:45\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-09 16:50:45\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/cccpaysvert.be\/animateurices\/?Date88AdamSandler","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Incestuous Dating","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jbUUgF 5 Tips To Manage The Holidays When You Are Single]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j3luZ8 Do You Need A Love Detox From Your Ex?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jdkVfu Is Your Ego In Charge Of Fixing Your Love Life?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jdMvJw 10 Signs That You Are A Love Junkie]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jBCmpS 6 Ways To Help Your Children Through Divorce]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Y16ylR Are You More In Love With Him Than He Is With You?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jbUUxb When You Become Desperate for a Date Night]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3GcOfEf Losing the Fights in Your Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lyeqFC Advice On First Dates]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42UqHvJ Why Men Don\u2019t Want To Date Strong Women]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Emu5ah How Do I Get A Date?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3GcOmzF Have I Found The One?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42KVpZ2 How Can I Get A Girlfriend?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YomZJl 3 Steps To Starting Successful Conversations]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jE0p7H Is It Okay To Tell Her She Looks Fat?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XWzL1l Should I Give Up On This Girl?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YA3CwH 4 Things I Should Tell You Before We Start Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3EhC0pn Life After Divorce: Papers Not Yet Signed \u0026 She\u2019s Already Dating My Friend!]]\r\n\r\nNo \u2014 its not as bad as it sounds (unless you live in Mississippi), but I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve all seen or been affected by the interesting phenomenon in certain friend groups where the girls\/guys systematically work thru everyone datable in the group. To be honest, it\u2019s always baffled me. I mean, I am friends with almost all of my exes but not to the point of lets all hang out and I can watch you smootchie all over my friend. And THEN, I get to hear her version of your relationship because, well, she\u2019s my friend and listened to me when I told her all about the romantic date her ex took me on. \r\n\r\nMy heart is generous, but not armored for that kind of wear and tear. I\u2019m more of the school \u2014 you dated my friend within the last 5 years, so its going to take an act of God to get us together.\r\n\r\nBut a lot of people I know engage in this kind of roulette style dating and don\u2019t seem to think anything about it. One of my friends recently explained that she did it (before she married one of the guys in the group) b\/c she walled herself off from strange men in an attempt to protect herself. So her guy friends were the only guys who got to know the real person under her famous smile and she relaxed enough around them to develop interest. And another friend sticks to dating friends because they developed a solid foundation to start.\r\n\r\nOn the flip side, some of my friends have been incredibly wounded by not knowing that one of those breakups isn\u2019t going to be pretty, so they had to decide, do I lose my friends to save my heart or do I harden up to keep my friends?\r\n\r\nAnd then there are those who only fish outside the group which makes it harder to really know someone before letting them into your life and at times the group newbie loses some great friends in the break up b\/c the group insider knew them first.\r\n\r\nMy question is\u2026 for those of you who do this: HOW do you move on like that so quickly and do you really get a good chance for making a clean break of it before dating your next friend? Has it ever harmed your circle to the point of splitting friendships?\r\n\r\nAnd for those of you who don\u2019t \u2026 Do you have an unwritten code among your friends that exes are off limits or is it something you would consider if the right one came along? Have you ever wanted to date someone in your group and the break up dynamic is exactly what stopped you from pulling the trigger?","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-04-16","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-04-16","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"IncestuousDating","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-16 17:18:43","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-16 17:18:43","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"66.249.64.13","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-04-16\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-04-16\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022IncestuousDating\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-16 17:18:43\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-16 17:18:43\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/cccpaysvert.be\/animateurices\/?IncestuousDating","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Once Upon a Saturday","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iAh4rM Public Displays of Affection]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cJoOpU Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42Kuong A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iyySn7 Avoid the First Date Let Down]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ixhb7g Letting Go of the Control Freak]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iOHdDr Keep It Classy America]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3S29BGX How To Be More Emotionally Low Maintenance]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4itFT8I I Like Me!]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4itFN0Q Why Are You Still Single?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3S56OwG How Do You Meet Someone New?]]\r\n\r\nIt started off kind of like any weekend could. We had plans to go downtown, catch a movie on the big IMAX screen at the Science Center and then dinner reservations at an Italian restaurant we had heard was good. LC got up late and suggested we head out early. The weather was nice, sun was out, and we could walk around downtown a bit and enjoy it. We both got ready and drove out to get some lunch. After lunch we walked around a bit, looked at the water, and hit our first snag.\r\n\r\nThe movie wasn\u2019t showing at the time I had seen advertised earlier in the week. Now what? No problem LC assured me, we\u2019d just bum around the city and take it easy. So we walked around for bit. After a while LC was thirsty and I needed a bathroom so we headed into a drug store and asked if they had a restroom. When I came out, LC was sitting near the door. I told him I was ready to go now, but he said he needed to make a stop too. Unfortunately the restroom was inconveniently located behind a door that had to be unlocked by an employee. It was about to shut so I went to run for it. That\u2019s when it happened. I felt this awful *pop* inside my left leg and froze in my tracks. Luckily someone else came out from behind the door and LC got to use the restroom. When he came out he asked if I was okay and I insisted I was. Just needed to walk it off! No problem! A few steps later, I was almost in tears and LC was convinced I needed to go home.\r\n\r\nNo! I don\u2019t need to go home! I just need to walk it off! I\u2019ll be fine! LC wasn\u2019t buying it. I limped around the drug store to grab some mascara and something to rub on my oddly injured leg. We paid for that, plus the soda, and headed off. LC was still skeptical, but I was insistent. So out we went. When I stepped off the curb to cross the street, I shrieked. LC looked more skeptical. I managed to hobble across the street before he made me sit down. He ended up going back across the street to get some aspirin while I sat still. When he got back I took the pills, drank a little soda, and insisted we try to walk around again. LC tried to convince me he would pull the car over and pick me up but I totally panicked. No! I want to walk to the car! I\u2019m going to be okay! So fine, I limped up to the car, by which point I was sore and worn out. I was frantic not to go home though so he finally calmed me by agreeing we could drive around for a bit. It was a compromise I accepted.\r\n\r\nWe ended up driving to a nearby urgent care center. I could barely walk and he knew I\u2019d refuse the emergency room. I tried to resist but he wasn\u2019t having any more of it. In we went. I filled out all the little intake papers like a good girl and we finally got into a room. The nice nurse turned on the television for us and we waited some more. LC turned to me and said, \u201cPretty funny day, huh?\u201d I glared at him. \u201cI don\u2019t think so.\u201d We waited some more. Then the lights in the facility went out. Seriously. As we sat there in the quiet and the dark I turned to him and couldn\u2019t help but laugh. \u201cNow it\u2019s funny.\u201d I told him.\r\n\r\nEventually the lights came back on. The doctors wrapped my leg and sent me out on crutches. And we had no idea where to go from there. LC drove us back into the city while I continued to insist that sitting still would only make it worse. He drove to a nice neighborhood by the water and parked the car. I tried to figure out whether I had to walk with the crutches, or maybe just one crutch, or maybe none. He told me we didn\u2019t have to do this. I threw both crutches in the back of the truck and decided to limp.\r\n\r\nWe limped across the street and out to the end of a wharf. Finally we sat down on a bench. We talked for a bit. We watched the water for a bit. And eventually LC turned to me and said he had a question to ask me. And right there he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.\r\n\r\nOf course I said yes! And he slipped the most gorgeous ring onto my finger. And that, my dear friends, is how I got engaged.\r\n\r\nAfterwards I couldn\u2019t limp much further. He ended up pulling the car around to get me and take me to our dinner reservations for the evening. We had a nice dinner and then came home and put some ice on my leg. And on Monday I\u2019ll call a specialist because I\u2019m still limping.\r\n\r\nBut once upon a Saturday, just yesterday in fact, LC proposed to me. And I said yes. And now all we need to do is live happily ever after. I can\u2019t wait.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-05-08","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-05-08","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"OnceUponASaturday","date_creation_fiche":"2025-05-08 17:02:18","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-05-08 17:02:18","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"66.249.76.8","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-05-08\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-05-08\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022OnceUponASaturday\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-05-08 17:02:18\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-05-08 17:02:18\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/cccpaysvert.be\/animateurices\/?OnceUponASaturday","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Sortie Culturelle","bf_description":"La culture, moins on en a, plus on l\u0027\u00e9tale!","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-05-30T18:00:00+02:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2021-05-02T20:00:00+02:00","bf_site_internet":"https:\/\/www.yeswiki.net","bf_adresse":"Avenue des Champs Elys\u00e9es","bf_code_postal":"75000","bf_ville":"Paris","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"TesT2","imagebf_image":"TesT2_presence-photo.png","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2021-05-24 22:54:03","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2021-06-21 19:29:14","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"48.865669","longitude":"2.3203067","geometries":""},"user":"66.249.73.192","owner":"WikiAdmin","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-05-30T18:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222021-05-02T20:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_adresse=\u0022Avenue des Champs Elys\u00e9es\u0022 data-bf_code_postal=\u002275000\u0022 data-bf_ville=\u0022Paris\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022TesT2\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222021-05-24 22:54:03\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222021-06-21 19:29:14\u0022 data-owner=\u0022WikiAdmin\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/cccpaysvert.be\/animateurices\/?TesT2","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Still (kind of) on that dating hiatus...","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ldGi1t Weird Boobs and Little Wieners]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43zqcsQ Our Son Is Disabled and It\u0027s Tearing Us Apart]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iT6soS Our Kids Drove Us Crazy]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41R0Jd4 Our Home Renovation Is Wrecking Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XIDpMe Our Grown Daughter Moved Back In]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cxfp4Z Our Dog is Coming Between Us]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cdVdEZ My Teenage Daughter Is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/445L9LZ My Stepdaughter Is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4caKGu4 (Broken) Laws of Attraction]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42aQEqp Things You Should Be Doing To Find the Right Man]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lgI6ac Why Splitting Costs Isn\u0027t Splitting Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iKpVYJ Why I Like Messed-Up Girls]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/445ZLep Pilates It Is A Great Place To Meet Girls!]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lgI7uM How to Date Your Partner Forever]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lgI81O Slender Young And Pretty Girls]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FMle29 Do I Only Date Pretty Women?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ltSRpR Let\u2019s Just Get Naked]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/448hwtA So\u2026 You Want to Date a Single Dad.]]\r\n\r\nI wasn\u0027t ready to admit this the last time I wrote (as I was still grappling with it): at the end of my second date with Hoffman, he came back to my place. The connection was REALLY good, and he was completely respectful when I told him that we really shouldn\u0027t sleep together -- til I finally said, \u0022oh, fuck it!\u0022. And so we did.\r\n\r\nMy issues with him having a few pounds? I didn\u0027t seem too bothered by it in the moment. We talked about having him spend the night, but I didn\u0027t think it was a good idea -- I had to be up early the next day, and I never sleep well when I spend the night with a new guy. So he left, and sent me a very sweet text when he got home.\r\n\r\nDuring our next date a few days later, we had a very candid talk -- the sex was fun, but it was too soon. We continued to have a fabulous, intimate night -- dinner, followed by fun live music in the east village, followed by separate taxis home. We had talked about getting together again over the weekend (ie, this past weekend), but he had a friend coming to visit from out of town, and wasn\u0027t sure what they were doing yet. He emailed the next day to confirm as much -- the weekend wouldn\u0027t work, but he\u0027d contact me early in the week to make plans.\r\n\r\nOver the weekend, he sent a very sweet text -- I had sent him a link to something I\u0027d written (something work-related), and he wanted to let me know how much he\u0027d enjoyed it, adding \u0022you don\u0027t cease to amaze me!\u0022. Very thoughtful. This meant a lot to me -- there have been times in the past when I\u0027ve wanted to share some of my work with guys I\u0027ve dated, and when I\u0027d ask if they\u0027d read it, I\u0027d often hear a sheepish, \u0022Not yet -- I\u0027ve been soooo busy...\u0022. I got it.\r\n\r\nBy today, I still hadn\u0027t heard from him in terms of making plans -- with most other guys, I would have sat back and waited to hear from them, but with Hoffman? I can\u0027t explain it, I just feel a certain level of comfort with him. So I emailed him info on a new bar \/ lounge I\u0027d read about, adding, \u0022we should check this out!\u0022. He wrote back suggesting this weekend, and that he \u0022couldn\u0027t wait\u0022. Nice.\r\n\r\nI DO look forward to seeing him again, but am too overwhelmed with work at the moment to really think much about him or any other guys. I\u0027m leaving for a business trip next week that\u0027s going to keep me out of town for nearly two weeks, so dating isn\u0027t very high on my priority list right now. Just fine by me.\r\n\r\n*******\r\n\r\nAnd now: the Awkward Moment That Wasn\u0027t.\r\n\r\nMy friends (let\u0027s call them Mr and Ms Cool) were having an Oscar party -- these are the same people who threw the party where I met Mr 2010, aka The Invisible Man (after he, well, disappeared). This would be my first party at their place since his Great Disappearing Act of 2010 -- I saw that he was on the invite list.\r\n\r\nI wanted to have backup troops with me, but none of my close friends could make it. I then had a brilliant idea: why not invite Smiley, the guy I dated in December? He knows Mr and Ms Cool as well -- I\u0027d brought him to a few of their parties while we were dating. And oh yes -- there might be that added little jab to Mr 2010. When I told a friend, she said, \u0022I LOVE bringing a guy to a party where an \u0022ex\u0022 of some sort will be!\u0022. I felt the same way.\r\n\r\nSaying that, Smiley and I ARE still just friends, at least in theory. Since we last slept together a month or so ago, he has texted me for a last-minute movie or drink, but I\u0027ve been unable to make it. Not because I didn\u0027t want to see him, but (as anyone who knows me can attest) -- I\u0027m a major planner. It\u0027s generally very hard for me to do last-minute stuff. If I\u0027m at home after work in my sweats on the rare night I don\u0027t have plans to go out, and someone calls me for a spur of the moment drink? It\u0027s NOT easy to get me out of those sweats and into makeup.\r\n\r\nBut I digress.\r\n\r\nI was nervous about seeing Mr 2010 at the party, even with Smiley there with me, and tried to inwardly rehearse how I\u0027d talk to him - I thought cordial-but-cold was best. Turns out the only Oscar-worthy performances were on the TV, as he never showed. I was relieved.\r\n\r\nI must admit -- it felt pretty nice to sit next to Smiley on the couch, as we gradually sat closer and closer, and his arm went around my shoulder, eventually playing with my hair, while his other hand caressed mine. He walked me home, and there was some sexy smooching. If things don\u0027t work out with Hoffman, I may have to consider some future sexytime with Smiley.\r\n\r\nHm, what\u0027s that, you say? Oh, you mean about my recent blog post about not sleeping with a guy again until we\u0027re in what may lead to a serious relationship? Well - spring is in the air, yada yada yada... I\u0027m hopeful about Hoffman, but it\u0027s always good to have a Plan B.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-04-02","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-04-02","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"StillKindOfOnThatDatingHiatus","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-02 17:35:55","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-02 17:35:55","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"74.7.242.34","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-04-02\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-04-02\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022StillKindOfOnThatDatingHiatus\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-02 17:35:55\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-02 17:35:55\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/cccpaysvert.be\/animateurices\/?StillKindOfOnThatDatingHiatus","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Still relaxing, still enjoying the ride","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iv93o5 You\u0027re Never Too Old For True Love!]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FZzyUP Why Dating Tips Aren\u2019t Working for You]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RyTAIB Turn Your Holiday Blues Into Real Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jo3MiF Love Problems? Never Run From The Issue - Solve It]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jmDfCs You Need Only One Man To Find True Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YmJRbN Finding A Man Isn\u0027t The Answer]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jqn1YX Why Can\u0027t Your Heart And Head Like The Same Person]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YsxUBr Quit The Blame Game \u0026 Ditch Bad Relationship Behaviors For Good]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XY2X8e Do You Have A Love Leak?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RdzFhZ We Got Married Too Young]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cpSLLy We Keep Tearing Each Other Down]]\r\n\r\nSlight tipsy blogging right now (not quite drunk) -- just got in from yet another wonderful date with Mr 2025. He\u0027s lovely, smart, fabulous, thoughtful. We had one of those goodnight kisses on the street before I got on my subway -- the kind of kiss that just makes it hard to say goodbye.\r\n\r\nI\u0027m still (mostly) sticking to my new motto for this year: relax, and enjoy the ride. I\u0027m feeling really good about him, and am just (trying to) take this moment by moment. Every so often I get a twinge of \u0022this may be too good to last \/ the rug might get pulled out from under me\u0022, but then it usually disappears pretty quickly.\r\n\r\nThankfully, I\u0027m NOT at all itching to ask what he\u0027s \u0022looking for\u0022, the way I felt with Smiley early on. (I checked my notes: I first had a hint of a talk with Smiley on the subject on our eighth date). I think it\u0027s because I suspected that Smiley was similar to other in-career-limbo guys I\u0027ve dated in the past -- the kind of guy who feels that he needs to sort out his own life first before he can think of sharing it with someone else. And I was right. You know what they say about trusting your gut.\r\n\r\nMr 2025 seems to be happy and successful in his career, so thankfully, no career limbo there. Of course that means nothing in terms of what he wants in a relationship, but it could potentially be one less obstacle.\r\n\r\nFor now, my gut is giving me two thumbs up (guts have thumbs...?). Next date already in place for this weekend. 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He texts that he will be late. Something about work. He apologizes, and I decide to be nice, to be understanding. He sets a new time of 8 p.m.\r\n\r\nNext, 9 p.m. rolls around, and I am waiting for him to call me. I am sitting on my couch, dressed up in a white top with black and white leggings, and red pumps. I feel pretty and infuriated. I feel like a fool. I check my phone every few minutes and see nothing. Finally, he calls. He\u2019s a few minutes away.\r\n\r\nWe meet a few blocks from my apartment complex. I am cold and distant. He notices. And I notice he\u2019s wearing jeans and a white t-shirt. No effort. Because he thinks I don\u2019t deserve it. Because I led him to believe this behavior is acceptable. Because I said \u201cyes\u201d when he showed no follow through, and so he isn\u2019t following through.\r\n\r\nYet, I let him kiss me. Two hours into our date, he leans in and kisses me in public. I knew then and there that our \u201crelationship\u201d would be purely sexual.\r\n\r\nAnd it was.\r\n\r\nBecause I date unavailable men. I have settled for less than I deserve time and time again. It is a struggle that I have lived with for most of my adult life. One that I am ready to demolish. I don\u2019t want to survive in relationships. I want to thrive. I don\u2019t want to prove to a man that I deserve love, consistency and respect. I want a man to know that I do.\r\n\r\nIt all begins with me. This year, I will make better choices. I already am. I let Brian go months ago. I refuse to settle. Moving forward, I will say \u201cno\u201d to mediocrity. 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Pay her a visit to say HI, and pass on a few words of encouragement!\r\n\r\nMinor updates:\r\n\r\n* I heard from Martin for the first time since the breakup early in the week -- a mass email, inviting me to his upcoming birthday party. No thanks -- no response necessary.\r\n\r\nI felt a twinge of missing him for a half-day or so after the breakup -- but as I biked through his neighborhood a few days later, I realized that I was feeling relief to NOT be dating him any longer. He just wasn\u0027t right for me, but I was initially willing to overlook that for the sake of a good connection and fun companionship. Lesson learned, I hope.\r\n\r\n* I\u0027m convinced that DogMan isn\u0027t interested in me, despite hours of easy convo on our date the other night. I know -- \u0022The Rules\u0022 dictate that a woman should wait for a man to make the first contact after a date, but I got impatient: two days after the date, I emailed him some info that I had promised I\u0027d send, signing off with a breezy \u0022have a great weekend -- talk soon\u0022. (eh, I\u0027ve always been a rule-breaker anyway)\r\n\r\nHe wrote back a short while later, thanking me for the information, and wished me a great weekend as well. Polite, but not exactly warm. No suggestion of talking soon or getting together again. It\u0027s fine. Onward!\r\n\r\n* As Guy Friend reminded me: it doesn\u0027t seem like it\u0027s a match with him, but you\u0027ve got 5-6 other chickens in the oven, so to speak. It\u0027s true. I already have two dates planned in the next few days, in addition to communication with other J-guys simmering away. 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